Last Thursday, I found myself involved with in a chat-room conversation with two Jewish men who were complaining about Black people in their neighborhood. The conversation quickly turned to insulting the history of Black people in America, Africa (past and present), myths about Black slavery and just a general bigoted attitude towards people of African decent. Most interesting is that even I stated 3 times that I myself was Black, they did not catch onto it (probably because just prior, I was talking in depth about various Jewish neighborhoods in New York that I had gone to for Shabbos); and it was probably for the better. If they would have known I was Black, everything I would have uttered would have been good for nothing, and they would turn their insults full-force at me personally.
And of course they offered up the oh-so-big-and-bad insult to me - they called me a liberal.
I am not shocked, but I am utterly confused by this sort of behavior from frum Jews! The last time I had to deal with such bigotry was back in PIA in my aviation studies. But at least there, I could rationalize that, "Hey, this are backwoods, redneck young males who have a sheltered view of the world - including minorities; what do they know?" But now, I am starting to see that the same situation can manifest itself in the Jewish community.
Never mind images such as these which are obvious, permanent reminders that no so long ago, the Jews and the Niggers were one of the same to the Anglo-Saxon racists of the world. Even today, organizations such as the National Vanguard see the Jews, Blacks, and Hispanics as a common malice. But as quickly as some Jews are to dismiss these unfounded claims of clandestine Jewish manipulation of American politics and the economy, they are slow to dismiss the negative stereotypes perpetuated [by the media] about Blacks.
Before I get to deep into my tirade, I must say that by far, in my experience, Orthodox Jews have outperformed secular and non-Orthodox Jews in their relations with me. It's true that many of the non-Orthodox are Democrats and committed to civil rights in general. But when it comes to treating you like a person and not a curiousity; with not pretending to understand when they really don't; etc. With Orthodox Jews, you feel a connection that doesn't come between you (if you are shomer mitzvot) and other secular Jews. Even if the other Orthodox Jew is not particulary friendly with you - you are still 'connected'. Such connection can only come about in a community established by Hashem.
That being said, it is nothing more than a chillul Hashem when a frum Jew will reduce themselves to repeat and perpetuate racist, bigoted ideas and comments. As if the Shoah was not enough to show us the mindlessness of racial-based beliefs of inferiority/superiority. In this article , it specifically discusses with how racial bigotry is not in accordance to the teachings of Torah at all and in fact should be avoided at all costs because there are Yidden of every race out there so you will not be able to seperate your comments against a particular race and lashon hara against another Jew.
Of course there is the camp that would like to believe that racism is sanctioned by the Talmud (see this thread at Hashkafah.com) . Of course, the Talmud has been time and time again, misquoted, misrepresented, and misunderstood. This man does a good job a refuting many of these false Talmudic quotes. And this man presents quite well the rebuttal of the fact that Judaism teaches racism.
Getting back to me, I have already opened up the gate to a path that will put me into the heart of one of the most misunderstood religious communities in America. Just like my observant White counterparts, I need to live in a certain area, eat in certain places, refrain from melachot at certain times, etc. I will also need to marry an observant man and send my children (if I am so blessed) to Jewish schools where my sons can be properly instructed in the application and depth of the Torah and my daughters can be in an environment where they learn that there is more to the worth of a Bas Yisrael than showing her stuff and looking cute all the time.
Yet for some reason, some Jews feel that because I am Black, I should be limited in my ability to manifest these basic Jewish needs. My favorite is when someone suggests that I should go to Israel to find an "Ethiopian" for shidduch (once I complete gerus). Where does this come from? Why would I be more compatible with an Israeli Ethiopian than with a American Caucasian Jew? Or even a Black American Jewish convert (not that all Black Jews are converts anyway - but that is another issue)?
In Orthodox conversion to Judaism, you essentially 'leave behind' your prior background; in that, from a basis of halacha, you release the connection you had with your non-Jewish family. This is necessary in regards to the individual ger and the execution of standard Jewish rituals. But the emotional connection is still there. It is the soul that is reborn after immersion from the mikveh, not the physical body (if that were the case, I'm sure that conversion to Judaism would be much more popular!).
It is not at all easy to push aside all the stories that you hear and all the hype to see someone as who they really are. I wish that I myself can fully say that when I see a physically handicapped individual, that I do not get hung up on their appearance, and I'm able to see their neshama above all right away; but albeight I cannot. However the Torah is the way that Jews can obtain the ability to become more intune with common humanity. In the Amida three times daily, Jews affirm to love the prostelytes among them. Is there a limit to that love?
What is this basis for the Jewish fear and dislike of Black people? And don't say Farakkhan. I don't know of a single Black person who takes that man seriously. It's true that other 'Black leaders' have given speeches peppered with Anti-Semitic remarks, but so have the Catholic Popes. Perhaps Black people are just easy to pick on. I mean, it must be oh-so-easy! They are all poor, welfare srounging, drug addicted good-for-nothings who did not 'help themselves' like the Jews did. Well I'm not going to get into it here my ideas as to why the Blacks were "left behind" in regards to economic progression in America; but it is pretty safe to say that such reasoning is grossly flawed. 1) Who said the 'majority' of Black people have not improved in comparison to their Grandparent's generation? (I know I certainly did) and 2) Who is saying that the Jews have been more successful? Especially among Orthodox Jews; there were Jewish mothers standly right along with me trying to get the FEMA EBT (a.k.a. food stamps) when Hurricane Wilma hit. And I can afford to shop in Macy's and Ann Taylor when many of my neighbors can't.
This is not an issue of saying that I am right, you are wrong, blah, blah. I just want to put reality out there. And if I can't change it, I want to at least help my future children wade through this mishaggus. Among my prayers for them (which will include a love of Torah and Yiddeshkeit) will be that they will not sink to the level of bigotry which can foster in an insular community. I love the feeling of living where I live; of going to the local groceries and seeing kosher food; of seeing the bookstores - even the non-Jewish ones, catering to a Jewish populace; to see everyone going out on Motzei Shabbos; to see all the children scrupulous in wearing their kippot and practicing acts of chessed; I really love all of that! To have it tainted by unneccessary bigotry and myths about not only non-Jews, but non-Jews who have a different skin color - my oh my.
Since the detractors love to pull reinforcers of racism from the Torah, what about when Miriam was afflicted for her criticism of Moshe Rabbenu's wife (which included that she was Black). Surely you don't need a more obvious example of what Hashem thinks of racism.
The Most Famous Ramban in Chumash – The End of Parshas Bo
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The Ramban at the end of Bo is a classic work on Jewish philosophy and
probably the most quoted Ramban in Chumash. It’s well worth seeing inside.
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3 comments:
Hi! I am always glad to see more Black people, especially Black Americans, amongst the Jewish people. Keep writing. Maybe eventually there will be a Black Jewish webring!
On Frum Jews and racism, I would say this: what I have observed is that many Orthodox people have been raised to believe that they are better than others. Many believe they are better than other Orthodox Jews because they are Haredi and the other is Modern Orthodox, or because they are one Chassidic sect and the other guy is from another Chassidic sect. And let's not even get into the sense of superiority many Orthodox Jews feel vis a vis non-Orthodox Jews, or Frum From Birth Jews feeling superior to Ba'alei Tshuva. My conversion teacher, who had been frum all her life and grew up in Jerusalem, said that Bibi Netanyahu was more spiriually pure than Bill Clinton even though both had been unfaithful to their wives - entirely because Bibi was Jewish and Clinton was not. I kid you not on this.
Non-Orthodox Jews in the US are more likely to have been raised to at least be nice to people who are different, and to at least not act like they are superior in the presence of others.
Generally I have found the Orthodox world to be generally inhospitable. Even people born and raised Jewish who become religious get treated like crap by the religious world, especially when it comes time to find shidduchim or for their kids to enroll in school. This goes on even in Chabad, which is more open than other Chassidic sects and actively looks for Ba'alei Tshuva.
It gets even worse when you hear from people who grew up in the religious world. There are many blogs out there from disaffacted Orthodox Jews and former Chassidim. I just finished reading a book about rebel Chassidim which I have mentioned in a recent post on my blog and plan to write more about when I get the time. (the "Unchosen" book. It just came out).
Years ago, after living in Bnei Brak for some time (not like I really wanted to be there, but it gave me an opportunity to see the Orthodox world close up, and where EVERY SINGLE SHABBES on the way to shul and Shabbat dinners I endured being stared at, pointed at and taunted by the Frum Jewish children there with maybe one parent in 500 telling their children that their behavior is rude and disrespectful), I concluded that if I am going to marry a Jewish guy, it won't be an Orthodox guy, because the Orthodox world is not openminded enough. Even if an individual Orthodox Jewish guy is open enough to seriously date and marry a Black women, there is the issue of his parents and he may very well not be able to go up against his parents and community like that.
That being said, it's not like I haven't seen it happen. But I would say that it is in your best interests to look outside the Orthodox world. If you are really set on being observant, I would go Conservadox. I lean that way (though since Israel, somewhat less so in practice) and the Conservadox are usually really sharp, educated liberals often with multiple afdvanced degrees and comitted to equality of all sorts. I don't know where to poiint you to in Florida but in New York I would basically go straight to JTS. Often times with the Conservadox, their shuls are just like the Orthodox shuls except for mixed seating and full participation of women. I tend to feel comfortable in these kinds of shuls, personally.
Treifalicious...
I appreciate your suggestion and understand your experiences. I myself, have not been to Eretz Yisrael. For some reason, I would think the treatment of Black Jews would be better there. I guess the only way to find out is to see it first hand!
However I do not feel as if I can compromise my approach to the Torah just because I am a little uncomfortable. I'm not saying that this is what you are doing; I am a firm believer that everyone needs to find their way to service to Hashem. In the time of moshiach, we will know the exact path but for now we do our best. However bad other 'Orthodox Jews' may be, their actions are not sanctioned by Hashem who loves all of his creation dearly.
On top of that, no amount of strife given by other humans could be as bad as feeling what I felt in the non-Orthodox Jewish world. My sould just found no peace there. Sure, I may not ever be able to marry; but I also could not live with a man who is dedicated to keep the Torah - the very keystone of the Jewish people - central to our home. Currently I have a home - my home - which is holding by these laws; and I love it.
I know of other Black Orthodox Jews here in Florida. Two have about 10 years or so on me and are married professionals. I'm not saying that they are not involved; but are probably not in a position to be subjected to 'little incidents' like little-ol'-me who is single and has a lot more time to mingle with my neighbors. I also know of other 'success stories' from Black people in the Orthodox world; coupled with my own experience - I'm not ready to run away just yet.
And finally, on the point of other Jews; I really don't know if I could point to one group or the other and being worse than the next. I have a few Chassidic friends; one set is a couple who lives up in Monroe, NY (pretty insular). Sometimes I feel more at ease with them than anything because they sort of look at life like, "Hey, there's a lot out there that we are not exposed to - tell us more!". So they are no more surprised by me being Black and Jewish than finding out that Mexican makes liquor with a worm in the bottle. Some of the Modern Orthodox on the other hand feel that they have been educated, and very knowledgable about the world; when instead they have compartmentalized modes of living. So when they see a "Black Jew" it conflicts with their 'learning'. Because they probably studied the "African-American" experience and those people are of a group distinct from ours; it can be hard for them to reconcile. Of course these are isolated cases - I do not intend to stereotype (please, I have Modern Orthodox friends as well!). The trap that all Jews must learn to escape is the trap of seeing Judaism as a constraint of behavior passed on through the genes instead of a legacy of peoplehood; a people who conduct their lives in accordance to the Ways of Torah. The Jews who look at Judaism as a form of the latter have a much easier time accepting Jews of non-white races as their bretheren.
In the original entry, I made an error of attributing the suffering of Miriam as a punishment for her 'racist' remarks. Our sages attribute her punishment to other behavior; and while it could have also been an avarah on Miriam's behalf it is not noted specifically. I apologize for any confusion caused by the conclusion I brought to light.
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